Life? working of the minds?

I came across this article in a magazine called the creative life. This is how true i wonder, but at the same time there are certain levels of contradicting points of views, as i thought everything always have 2 different points of view.

Human actions are what they are, and the mind is the 'mastermind' controlling our actions. we often reflect whatever information that is thrown to us, and how we react is based on these thrown information.

In this article - "the mysterious workings of the human minds" shows exactly how human reacted to the situations

one example mentioned in this article was - " a mother and 3 year old son conversation.
"put that knife down (mum), No i won't cut myself (son), Yes, you will (mum), No (son).....

this makes the child more determined, and both becomes angrier.

Is this not how we always present ourselves to others? we always put ourselves first, then end up forcing the other party to react by defending themselves and turning blaming messages (send by u) into non blaming messages (let say u trying very hard to avoid and finding excuses).

Because we always like to start sentences of blames by "You ... should not do this, see what u have done...." and obviously the other party will return your attacks by " I .... did not..." See u caused this mirror and tension...

Taking the softer approach; " when i see you holding that knife, i feel scared, i worry that you might cut yourself..." this soften the kid, and calms him down, so we are now all in the win win situations.

So whenever we are angry we always start the "You" messages and that's the end if we don't know when to keep them in.


We are mirrors, whenever someone tells us that we are good, kind, positive natures, we will behaves in the given comments, so it works the same for negatives inputs. teaching and praising them at the right moment groom them to be what we want them to be.